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“O divine Master,
grant that I may not so much seek to be consoled
as to console,
to be understood
as to understand,
to be loved
as to love.”
~ St. Francis of Assisi

Learning to be selfless is a huge hurdle in life. As humans, we are selfish by nature, because we are all sinners. It’s the way we’re wired, but not the way we were meant to be.

Whether we live seeking to be loved or to love comes down to the choices we make. These choices spring up in our everyday lives, and usually they are just everyday choices. The way we handle these decisions, however, and the direction in which we choose to go with them will be proof of our hearts.

The decisions we make will show whether we care more about others or ourselves. When we come to the point where we can put our own desires and even needs on the back burner, that is when we become selfless. It is when we take on a Christ-like quality like none other.

To seek to console others rather than be consoled myself, to seek to understand instead of being understood… and to love rather than seeking out love for myself… now that is true humility.


Well, who is to say that the person you’re giving understanding, consolation, and love to won’t just turn around and walk the other way? How do you know they won’t be ungrateful for the sacrifice you’ve made for them? Well.. you don’t.

That’s why it’s humility. You’re opening your heart and pouring out what you have to give to others. Putting them first rather than yourself. Even if it means you never get so much as a “thank you” in return. Because if you’re giving to someone in expectation of a response, then that defeats the purpose and is not real humility. That’s not to say that it wasn’t nice and all… but it’s a completely different scenario.

So even if they never really seem to notice…

Everybody wants to be loved. So to make a point of loving and not seeking to be loved becomes a sort of sacrifice. Sacrificial giving is beautiful. And in an interesting turn of events, true humility brings one into the spotlight.

Think of Mother Teresa and how she gave her love away to the people of India. She didn’t seek to be loved or consoled or understood. Or noticed. And that is what made her so lovely and so noticed.

“To love him with all your heart, with all your understanding and with all your strength, and to love your neighbor as yourself is more important than all burnt offerings and sacrifices.” — Mark 12:33, NIV

Please keep on continually praying for Jon and his family.. and catch up with his story if you haven’t already! His next MRI is coming up on June 30th.